I think that one of the biggest reason why relationships do not work out in the long run is because at one point, one side (or both) stops trying. Before one claims another person as their significant other, they would do anything to make that person happy. They would chase, they would flirt, they would be charming. They would send daily morning and goodnight texts every time you wake up or go to sleep. They would write corny messages and pick up lines just to make sure that there is a smile upon your face. But once they claim you as theirs, all of those things eventually stop. The 5 page texts slowly turn into 1. The constant calls turn into not calling at all. And the lovely endearments turn into daily arguments. In order for a relationship to work, don’t ever stop chasing. Just because the person you want is now consider “yours”, it does not mean they deserve anything less than the time when you’re trying to win them over.
The simplest solution to the 'chasing' issue in relationship: never stop chasing and keep it interesting. You nailed the very simple answer. Yet as simple as it is, is very complicated. This is where sometimes distance and time off together is useful. Having time off and distance makes the next time you meet up more interesting and fun with a lot of catching up and the moment would be more appreciated. That's why more couples that are together, 24/7, may seem boring when seen together casually. In conclusion -- everything in moderation. Don't send 'ilu's' every second.
ReplyDeleteSecond, keep it interested with an open mind. Keep on learning something new about your s/o and try something new everyday with your s/o. The same can be said about life -- you're always learning something new.
Seriously, well said.
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